Updated: Jan 30, 2020
AUTHOR: Whoopi Goldberg
PUBLISHER: Hachette Book Group
PUBLISHED DATE: October 13, 2015
Whoopi has been a star longer than I've been alive. If you've seen her on the view, watched any of her memorable performances, or followed her career...this book is everything you'd expect of her.
Whoopi starts this book off with a disclaimer. Her advice may not work for you, but this is what works FOR HER! You don't have to take this advice and you certainly don't have to agree with it, but these are her thoughts and the reader can take them or leave them.
Whoopi offers advice on relationships and dating, on reducing relationship expectations, on being a considerate partner, on knowing what works for you and being honest with yourself, and on relationships with your children. It's a quick read, and will mostly come off as common sense, but some of Whoopi's advice definitely will not work for most people - early on she says that if she ever has a spouse again (which is highly doubtful because she doesn't want to get married, deal with a person's issues or meet their family) - they'd have to be willing to live in a completely different state than her! LOL! Rigid much? Thanks, but no thanks Whoopi - I need my bae to at least live in the same state as me. I need a partner to be emotionally invested in me, and I in them. I need to know their friends and family, and need my friends and family to know them. But I respected Whoopi's honesty and her willingness to share her truth.
Some of her advice I did agree with - I do think that some people have unrealistic expectations of a relationship, and that a lot of people do need to get in touch with themselves and get honest about what they want before they embark on a relationship. Whoopi also encourages single parenthood - which I'm sure some readers may take offense to, but I don't. People need to do what's right for them. If you can afford it, and are up to the challenge and would like to plan to be a single parent - go for it. So often we hear about the person who's been gilted and let that form our entire opinion of the matter, but there are people in the world who want to be parents without involving a partner, and I have no judgement towards either parties.
Whoopi does come off as that freaky auntie that tries to hit on all your friends when they come over... She is an unapologetic "hit and run" artist and you're either going to be here for it or not.
Recommendation: I can't say you need to run out and read this book. If you're up for a straight talk relationship book, or you just really need to hear Whoopi's thoughts on life - give it a shot.
Audience: Grown Folks